Slumperman met spoilbrag

Slumperman came to know a couple friend who's also having problems in communication. Inorder not to reveal their identity, let's call them Trinity and Neo.

Neo had dinner with Trinity and his parents. They had a couple of beers as well (酒鬼...). On their way back home in a car, Trinity requested Neo to give her a ride to her parents' home and pick up some clothes. Neo refused.

Once got home, Neo was very quiet, didnt talk to Trinity. Trinity, on the other hand, was upset and disappointed and at the same time, got heated and angry. Neo went into the bathroom and brushed his teeth, ready for sleep. It was like, 10 plus pm. Trinity was looking for some stuff in her wardrobe, as Neo could recall, hearing her slamming the wardrobe door. Neo thought, ok, probably she had used her strength a little bit too much and she had always been closing door with loud bangs. He remained quiet and continued with his teeth.

He' done with the teeth and went out to put the clothes into the bin where all the worn clothes were. He heard a loud bang, from the toilet door. This time, he was furious. What the he**?

Neo stormed back into the bedroom and used his hamjushou and knock on the door hard, violently, and kicked with his foot. He challenged Trinity * Are you trying to challenge me? I could hit quite well when comes to banging* Neo exclaimed. He continued with more bangs, and then stopped.

No, he didnt stop. He went into the room, pulled down the photo potrait and threw onto the floor.

He got his keys and walked out of the house, slamming all the doors he could find, drove to the park, and sat by the waters.

He described the beach as a peaceful place for hanging around. I agreed.

I had many beautiful memories with some of the people I know at the beach. However, they are gone, forever. I dont mean they died, but just that, the people you encounter with today are no longer of who they were you used to talk with. They used to be friendly, caring, and polite. They listened to your stories, and let you ly on their fleshy legs. We listened to the music created by the sea waves, and enjoyed the breezy wind blowing at our beautiful faces. It got a bit salty, though. They got to a point where they would ask * why dont you go and find a girlfriend? * That leaves me pondering * Positively, I think she's implying that I should make my move and date her. Negatively, I think she just wanted me to leave her alone and not bothering her. *

Anyway, I advised Neo to go home, as he got important things to do the next morning, and he shouldnt let Trinity spoil his plan. He listened, and got home.

He went to the bedroom, took the pillows, and slept in the living room (hmm, sound familiar). Again, slamming every possible doors he could find along the way. It was 12 plus am.

Why did you do that?

* I dont know. I cant stand sleeping with some spoilbrag. It irriates me. *

Why didnt you drive Trinity home in the first place?

* Well, I did it on purpose. I didnt see the whole point of being a Mr niceguy (hey, we thought the same!). Do you call me a responsible husband if I drive her home? My foot! She will still mock at me with nasty remarks for nothing. This is what you will get when dealing with a spoilbrag. They dont appriecate your doings, and they dont give a damn of what good you have done for them. The moment you refused their request, they gave you some colors. *

Why did you slam the doors?

* Her behaviour is justisfied for one big tight slap from the parents (back to the days where child abuse is not that popular). You try doing that to my dad, and you'll know. How could this happen? Do you slam your father's door just because he refused to buy you a car? Do you slam your CEO's office door when he refused to give you a pay raise? This is nonsence. To act in that way especially to your family members is totally unacceptable. I'll tell you, she wont get any slap from her parents anyway. Can you imagine, after living 28 years with parents she's still doing fighting match with her mother back home. Something must be wrong. Something terribly nust have gone wrong. My shouting match vanished since I was in Primary 5. Of course, it doesnt give me every right to give her one big tight slap to wake up her idea. Slamming the doors is good enough, I guess. *

Do you think she convey the message well to you?

She thinks this is an effective way of getting the message across. I tell you, if you study organisation behaviour, basic and advance, this is categorised as negative reinforcement theory. Negative Reinforcement is never effective, but it is worth mentioned as otherwise, you wont understand what's positive reimforcement.

Do you love her?

* This is totally a different thing to talk about. I love her, but I cant handle a spoil brag. I hope she read this and learnt. It's sad to learn one day when you realise the cause of a failed marriage, the loved ones have already left. *




Ends of Interview with Neo.